Ming Pao Weekly: Issue No. 1169, 7-Apr-1991
May Still Praises Jacky Despite Being Hurt
May's love life isn't considered very complicated, but it is worrying that just like in a movie, she keeps walking the same path.
Everytime someone touches this topic, she makes it clear, "I have never admitted." Many people think that for the sake of his career, Ah-May had no choice but to hide this relationship.
But today, she shook her head, denying this. She said determinedly, "I'm not afraid to be honest, before marrying, I will never disclose the identity of my boyfriend, otherwise it'll be so tiring to disclose a relationship when it's good & hold back tears when it's not. I've gone through it & I know better."
Retreating To Be No. 2
May said that she once thought that love was her life & that she'd die once she lost it.
But when her last relationship ended, she had to continue living.
"Then I realised that besides love, there're still many more things to do, why take it so hard? I still have friends, job, family. I can still lead a satisfied life."
Now her career comes first, the love that once hurt her so much, has retreated to No. 2, since the day she broke up with Jacky.
So what has taken the No. 1 spot in her heart? Besides acting, she has found a group of good pals.
"I was puzzled that I only liked making friends with those older than me, like Mrs Leong, Zhi-Wei, Alan. If I'd ever get together with Ah-Zhen, Fanny etc, I'd feel terrible."
Among her good pals, Liang Yun-Xin is her best pal. She said that she was a guy, she'd court Ah-Xin, because there isn't another good-tempered, family-loving, good-natured gal like her.
However, problems stil arise between gals. She smiled saying, "Maybe to both of us, we're best friends. But if you want her to choose between me & Ah-Jay (Liang Yun-Xin's fiancee), she'll undoubtedly give me up. I'd even lose out to him alot."
"Therefore a gal has to find a boyfriend eventually & he has to be faithful. Unluckily, it's hard to find a faithful man."
How Does Jacky Score On The "Faithful" Scale?
Expressionlessly, Ah-May replied, nodding her head, "Very high marks."
With regards to her philosophies, Jacky has high praises.
Unhappy For Half A Lifetime
Does May feel that her love life has always been unhappy? She said, "No."
Has May ever felt hurt?
She closed her eyes for awhile, then replied, "Yes, of course. Come to think of it, I've been quite badly hurt. But I've never re-opened my wounds. Why still look at your wounds when you know you've already been hurt? What comes around, goes around. Others hurt me, I hurt others."
Does she love less now that she's been hurt before?
"I've never thought of this. I don't think of these now, either I have it or I don't. Even if I were to lose it again, I won't be sad. I'm now looking for a life partner, rather than a passionate relationship."
She emphasizes that to her, work is most important to her, because work will never forsake her, but love "there's no guarantee, how can I be so engrossed in it?"
May, who's 24 this year, has her own set of philosophies. She often tells herself, "Always look on the bright side. If the sky falls, use it as a blanket."
Therefore everyone likes chatting with May, as she's humorous & laughs alot, never showing her temper. But behind the laughter, she's a sensitive person, worrying over small matters.
"In my past, unhappy moments are more than happy ones. The once unhappy May envied those simple-minded people.
